Patching Epic Tent -BD Lighthouse

SilFix Repair kit, though it is listed as out of stock.

Some Cuban fiber repair tape could be an option (waterproof).

Good luck.

McNett used to have a kit called Sil Fix for Epic and silnylon but Tenacious tape should work.
Make sure you clean the area first with isopropyl or mineral spirit.

You are not the first to put a BD pole through the fabric.
The trick is to hold the pole tip with your hand and hold on tight as you insert it into the socket or move it out through the door.
Much easier to do if the corners are staked out. (so the tent floor does not move as you put poles in and out of place)
Your tent will perform a lot better if you use guylines.
(I own a Lighthouse...)

How to PROPERLY pitch the BD Lighthouse - The Inimitable Franco
I couldn't tell from your description exactly what you were doing - pitching or decamping. As I understand it, the fabric itself is stabilizing when the Lighthouse is pitched correctly. Last end of the pole is necessarily near the door. Velcro tabs are merely there to position the poles - the pressure of the pole against the fabric is sufficient to keep the pole from bending "incorrectly" when the floor is staked out. But then, I've never had "high wind" when pitching my Lighthouse, though I had VERY BAD conditions (winds in excess of 30 mph) once or twice while pitching my OneShot (smaller, but same pole setup - BTW, I love this tent!) on a very cold, blustery February night around midnight. So windy I rigged a poncho over the door to "streamline" the profile, which I had set ACROSS the wind direction - practice I thought at the time was contrary to the reasonable, but dictated by the available terrain.

Question: carbon or aluminum poles? I assume they were stock, but I've never even come close to bending or breaking mine. I suppose a sudden gust in the middle of a pitch could wreak havoc, however.

ETA: How did I miss this? I'm clear now.

Okay, so I can see how you wouldn't simply CARRY the Lighthouse somewhere else IN WIND - it's well known as a "kite". After setting up the Lighthouse the first time, I envisioned problems. So when BD discontinued the Epic line, I snatched a 2nd Lighthouse for a really good price - not much above the cost of a set of poles - for this very reason. However, I have yet to open that package. I failed to snag another OneShot.

I agree with everyone else: I'd use Tenacious Tape. I simply don't ever worry about appearances, and the small "acreage" of the repair won't matter at all.

"I had to hold the pole while trying to Velcro it, which is hard to do if you are trying to open the Velcro tab"
Yes, undoing those Velcro strips is a two hand operation and true to the Bibler and BD tents.
The trick here is to have those Velcro strips undone before inserting the poles .
Once undone it's easy to hold the pole with one hand and do the Velcro up with the other.

When you undo them, bend the female part (the one with the pull loop) in two so that is slides under the male part.
It won't stick to itself that way.

If its not too close to a seam I'd try a patch of silnylon in a bed of McNett seam sealer. Put the patch on the inside, then after it dries, put some seam sealer over the outside.