Stubborn Old Mules

atvtuner, that is so, so true. Sometimes other family members don't realize how demanding caregiving is, sometimes they just don't want to reprioritize their life, and worse yet, sometimes they kibbitz from the sidelines.

rebeccad, living in a metropolitan area does have a few advantages, one being that there's often paratransit available either through the regional or city public transit company, through assisted or independent living facilities, and sometimes through Senior Centers. But it varies by city; I've found the more sophisticated communities provide better services. The Senior Center in my city seems to spend its time arranging trips, especially to the casinos. Forget about the doctor appointments.