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Post by cweston on Aug 18, 2022 10:52:11 GMT -8
Pick the one best response.
One of the responses has a typo: it should read "Not from here, but moved here because family was here."
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Post by cweston on Aug 18, 2022 10:56:15 GMT -8
Since college, I've lived in 4 different cities/states. The first one was chosen largely for climate/recreation/etc. (I went to grad school there, but I could have gone to other places.) All the others were "moved here for work."
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Post by Lamebeaver on Aug 18, 2022 11:05:47 GMT -8
For both me and my wife, not having any family within 1,000 miles was a definate plus.
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Post by zeke on Aug 18, 2022 11:17:17 GMT -8
I moved 5 times for work. This move was because my wife wanted to be here after I retired. I dislike it, but choices have been made.
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Post by rebeccad on Aug 18, 2022 11:27:30 GMT -8
I have just moved back to my place of origin, and it was a good choice.
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Post by cweston on Aug 18, 2022 11:45:06 GMT -8
For both me and my wife, not having any family within 1,000 miles was a definate plus. We generally have felt that way as well. My wife's family is/was legit toxic. My family was more like just normally functional/dysfunctional. There are definitely costs, though. I don;t feel like our children were particularly close to any of their grandparents. In the case of one grandparent it was due to said toxicity, but for the others I think it was just lack of proximity/familiarity. Also, it got tougher as our parents aged. After my dad died, having my mom be in need of care but not living anywhere near either my sister or me was really unworkable. We ended up moving her here to Kansas with us for her last years. I know one of the things I've heard my fellow empty-nester parents say is that it can be really hard to maintain "comparable" relationships with adult children and grandchildren (which we do not yet have) when some live nearby and others don't.
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Post by swiftdream on Aug 18, 2022 13:17:16 GMT -8
My father was in the Service so we moved all over the place at the rate of about every two or three years. I was born in Mississippi Delta country but we left there when I was four. By the time I was ten we were living in the Sonoran desert.
That’s the only place that made a huge impact on me. It was that place that seemed so surreal but also seemed to be a place I belonged. Because of my parents nomadic existence I have no roots but developed a skill set that made everything possible.
I left home at sixteen and never went back so I understand Lame Beaver’s post intimately. I tried Florida, had a good time in the Gulf Stream but way too flat for my spatial perception and then the Deep South again for college but purposely moved to southern Arizona and the Sonoran desert when I was twenty and never looked back. There was amazing opportunities and I took full advantage. Sometimes you just need to take that big jump. To quote a Native American proverb, “As you go the way of life you will see a great chasm, jump, it is not as wide as you think.”
It was very fortunate that I didn’t settle for staying put. After retirement we intentionally moved a few miles further to a place right by the mountains and their seemingly endless canyons where we can walk from home in the saguaros and hike up through all the life zones to the ponderosas with hundreds of square miles to be in. Everything was and still is done purposely. You get what you settle for.
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Post by balzaccom on Aug 18, 2022 14:06:34 GMT -8
Moved to Napa for my wife's work. Then both got more heavily involved. Now we find it hard to consider anywhere else. We've been here more than forty years.
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Post by walkswithblackflies on Aug 18, 2022 14:34:19 GMT -8
House arrest
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Post by texasbb on Aug 18, 2022 16:35:20 GMT -8
Came here on a 6-month internship as part of a master's degree program. That was 38 years ago.
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Post by Travis on Aug 19, 2022 5:37:55 GMT -8
My "place of origin" is Wyoming's Thunder Basin Grassland, where my grandparents homesteaded over a hundred years ago. I've moved over a dozen times within a 150-mile radius and a few more times within a 500-mile radius. Those include locations from big city to a mountain area with no road or utility lines.
My most recent move was a couple years ago, but I don't expect it to be my last. "Primarily" I live here until I find the place I'd rather live. I'm not far from my "place of origin" but not too close either, I guess.
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Post by schlanky on Aug 19, 2022 13:41:28 GMT -8
All the places I've ever lived are in three counties within the same state. Two of those counties are adjacent. I currently live about 35 minutes from where I lived when I was born.
Total of seven apartments (four during college and three after college) and four houses (two growing up and two I've bought)
When I was younger, I figured I'd probably move far away at some point, but that never happened.
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Post by BigLoad on Aug 19, 2022 14:18:03 GMT -8
I moved halfway across the country for work a few months short of 35 years ago. I'm looking forward to living elsewhere eventually, preferably 2/3 of the way across the country from here.
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Post by Sleeping Bag Man! on Aug 19, 2022 15:57:32 GMT -8
I live in my place of origin, but certainly not because it's my place of origin.
I returned at the beginning of the pandemic because my mother was in mental & physical decline, and started falling. I would not put her in any kind of group care, which at that time was either an imprisonment or a death sentence...so I gave up my Central Oregon dreams and moved home to become her caregiver.
She has recovered enough that I have some freedom, but I've been economically crushed by the pandemic as well. So...very little adventure & travel these days.
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Post by rebeccad on Aug 20, 2022 7:15:37 GMT -8
Sleeping Bag Man!, I’m glad your mother is doing better, but sorry for the many ways the pandemic crushed you. Here’s hoping for a recovery, and soon.
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